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Why we need each other: The longevity secret

“Consuming things does not satisfy our longing for meaning. We’ve learned that piling up material goods cannot fill the emptiness of lives which have no confidence or purpose.” Jimmy Carter

We’ve never been more connected and more alone. In the race for success, self-expression, and consumerism, something vital has been lost: deep, meaningful community relationships.

Active participation in a community can add years to your life and improve your overall well-being. Humans thrive when they feel at home in communities that serve each other.

Former U.S. president Jimmy Carter was well aware of this, serving his community well into old age and reminding us of our true strength and values.

Meanwhile, depression and anxiety rates are rising significantly in urban areas. Research shows that people in cities are more likely to suffer from mental health issues compared to those in rural areas.

In big cities such as Stockholm, Berlin, and London about half the population live in single-households with high density housing, and transient populations of students and professionals leading to weaker social bonds.

The “Blue Zones” and community bonds

However, in those parts of the world, the so-called “blue zones”, where people live the longest strong community bonds are a common denominator.

In Okinawa, Japan, the elders have moais or tight-knit social circles that provide lifelong support. In Sardinia, Italy and many other southern European regions, inter-generational living keeps elders socially engaged.

The Harvard Study of Adult Development, which has been running for over 80 years, consistently finds that close relationships and strong social bonds are the most significant predictors of long-term health and happiness.

On my more than a dozen pilgrimage walks through rural northwestern Spain I have repeatedly witnessed the strong community spirit in the villages and towns. Regular religious and cultural festivals are held to celebrate local saints or historical events. People of all generations are strongly engaged in these events, providing purpose and meaning.

The Power of Social Connection

  • Studies show that strong social ties can increase lifespan by up to 50 percent compared to those with weak social connections.
  • Loneliness and isolation are as harmful to health as smoking 15 cigarettes a day.
  • Close relationships help reduce stress, improve mental health, and boost the immune system.

Cultivating strong social ties is one of the most effective ways to enhance health and happiness over time. Faith, purpose, and community engagement are particularly strong factors for resilience and longevity. When people look after each other they are more likely to stay physically active, eat healthier, and seek medical care when needed.

Reino Gevers – Author – Mentor –Speaker

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The power of community

Happiness is a state of mind, often based on those small joys of life that wield immense power to our sense of bliss.

Recently, I engaged in an exercise with course participants, probing into what fueled their energy reserves versus what drained them. Surprisingly, the resounding echoes leaned towards moments spent with loved ones, the companionship of pets, or the peace of mind found in nature as profound sources of rejuvenation.

Notably absent from their reflections was any mention of shopping or the accumulation of material possessions. Yet, society incessantly indoctrinates us that such acquisitions are the keys to happiness. The allure of novelty quickly dims, leaving behind a feeling of regret and shame from overspending.

Humans are tribal by nature

We humans are tribal by nature. Positive interaction with our fellow human beings where we feel seen, supported, and heard is key to perceiving a sense of safety and well-being. A supportive community has for eons been part of the survival mechanism of the human species.

In his research on the Five Blue Zones, Dan Buettner explored the lifestyles and diets in regions of the world where people lived the longest and were healthiest.

It is a fact that aging and death are part of life but living a healthy lifestyle can add decades to your life and happiness. Some key pillars of the research of the Five Blue Zones:

  • Physical Activity. People who live long lives do regular moderate exercise such as walking
  • All the Five Blue Zones came from strong communities with a healthy mixture of young and old people
  • They had a sense of purpose and joy
  • Their intake of calories and alcohol was minimal and most had Mediterranean or whole food plant-based diet.

Genetics play a relatively insignificant part of between 20-25 per cent when it comes to longevity.

With stress related physical and mental disorders becoming a growing threat to the very fabric of society, a supportive network of family, friends, or broader social circles, helps fortify your ability to weather life’s storms.

Belonging to a community fosters a sense of connection and belonging, which is fundamental to human well-being.

Healthy communities can serve as platforms for shared knowledge, emotional support and coping strategies. By exchanging insights and learning from one another’s experiences, individuals within a community can develop adaptive skills for managing stress more effectively.

The bonds of community are often strengthened by shared religious rituals, festivals, music and dancing.

In essence, community acts as both a shield and a sanctuary, offering protection from the onslaught of negativity from the external world while nurturing the resilience needed to bounce back after going through the loss of a loved one or any other challenge that life throws at you.

Reino Gevers – Author – Mentor – Speaker

P.S. I’m excited to announce the release of my latest book, “The Turning of the Circle: Embracing Nature’s Wisdom for Purposeful Living.” If you enjoy it, you might also be interested in my previous works, “Deep Walking for Body, Mind and Soul” and “Walking on Edge: A Pilgrimage to Santiago.” You can find all of these titles at reputable bookstores near you.

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Your social network matters

Humans thrive on social connections, as evidenced by research from the American Medical Association (AMA), which underscores the profound impact that a healthy community has on both physical and mental well-being.

Loneliness and isolation have reached epidemic levels in most Western countries, emerging as significant public health issues. Highlighting the severity of this problem, a U.S. Surgeon General advisory equates social connection with fundamental necessities like food and water in terms of its importance for long-term survival.

“We all need our time away for rejuvenation and reflection,” says Dr. Frank Clark, an associate clinical professor at the University of South Carolina School of Medicine-Greenville, “but social isolation is a form of solitude that is unhealthy and can occur due to multitude of reasons.”

Causes of social isolation could be the loss of friends or a partner due to death, divorce, or separation. An illness could make social connections difficult to maintain, but other factors such as a caregiver’s responsibility, a traumatic event, or life changes such as the loss of a job or retirement could all play a role.

Researchers who examined longevity in the Five Blue zones that included  Sardinia, Italy; the Greek island of Ikaria; Loma Linda, California; Nicoya Peninsula, Costa Rica and Okinawa, Japan, found that social interconnectedness played a key role in a healthy lifestyle. It can literally add decades to your life.

Social connections slow cognitive decline

Keeping up social connections as people get older helps to maintain thinking skills and slow cognitive decline. “It’s not uncommon for our social networks to shrink as we get older,” says Marilyn Albert, chairwoman of the Global Council on Brain Health.

Maintaining social bonds and having a sense of purpose have been identified by researchers in the Blue Zones Project as a critical element for longevity.

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Here are some common practices observed in Blue Zones that help strengthen social ties:

  1. Strong family bonds: Families tend to stay close-knit across generations. Elders are respected and often live with or near their extended family members. Regular family gatherings and celebrations are common, fostering a sense of belonging and support.
  2. Active social lives: People in Blue Zones often engage in regular social activities with friends and neighbors. This can include communal meals, gatherings, festivals, and religious or cultural events.
  3. Collaborative work and projects: Communities in Blue Zones often come together to work on shared projects or goals. Whether it’s farming cooperatives, community gardens, or other collaborative efforts.
  4. Cultural traditions: Many Blue Zones have strong cultural traditions that emphasize social connections. This can include practices like storytelling, music, dance, and rituals that bring people together and reinforce community ties.
  5. Support networks: Blue Zones tend to have strong support networks built on reciprocity and mutual assistance. People help each other in times of need, whether it’s through informal networks of friends and neighbors or more formal community organizations.

While rural settings often have characteristics conducive to strong community ties, the lifestyle factors observed in Blue Zone were not exclusively rural. The key lies in the cultural and social practices that promote longevity and well-being, regardless of whether they’re found in rural or urban environments.

Reconnecting with others after a period of social isolation can be challenging but is certainly possible. Start by reaching out to a close friend or family member for example with a simple text or phone call to catch up.

  • Consider joining groups, a religious community, or clubs that align with your interests or hobbies. This could be a book club, hiking group, cooking class, or volunteer organization.
  • Keep an eye out for local community events such as festivals, workshops, or meetups. These events offer opportunities to meet new people and engage with your community.
  • If you’re struggling with specific challenges such as mental health issues, addiction, or grief, consider attending support groups where you can connect with others who are going through similar experiences.
  • When interacting with others, practice active listening by showing genuine interest in what they have to say. Ask questions, offer support, and show empathy to deepen connections.

Cultivating a sincere interest in others not only enriches your relationships but also enhances your own appeal and magnetism. Developing and honing your social skills is essential for experiencing a fulfilling and rewarding life.

Reino Gevers – Author – Mentor – Speaker

P.S. I recently had a great chat on the fitforjoy podcast with Valeria Koopman on Living a Beautiful Life. If you found this Blog an interesting read you might also enjoy my latest book, “The Turning of the Circle: Embracing Nature’s Wisdom for Purposeful Living.” My previous titles, “Deep Walking for Body, Mind and Soul” and “Walking on Edge: A Pilgrimage to Santiago,” can also be ordered from all reputable bookstores near you.

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Our greatest fear

When a close family member dies unexpectedly we are inevitably confronted with our own greatest fear: The fear of death. It is the nature of existence that at some point in our life we will cease to exist in the physical form – something we like to banish from our minds in the daily rat race.

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Those souls that leave before us remind us that life, as we know it, does at some point end.  Most people will quietly fade away at a ripe old age. It is when a younger person is suddenly pulled from life that we become thoughtful – something I have just had to deal with when my younger brother died unexpectedly in his sleep from a heart attack.

When Lady Diana Spencer died in a car accident in Paris in August 1997 it had a global ripple effect. Hundreds of thousands of people lined the London streets mourning her death as if a close family member had died.  Lady Di was a mover and a shaker on many levels.

Being intensely involved in personal health consultancy business, someone recently remarked to me: “What’s the deal? Enjoy life while you can.”

What he really meant: Why go through the “pain” of observing a diet of healthy food and regular exercise  if you are going to die anyway? When your time is up, your time is up.

But that is just the point. We don’t know when our time is up. Living a mindful and healthy life will on average extend your life by at best a few years. But that should not be the primary motive. Who wants to be a centenarian if all your best friends have died?

Research on the blue zones – those places in the world with on average the highest number of centenarians – shows that we are missing the point when we aim for a long life. We should aim instead for a higher quality of life in the here and now that might or might not extend your life.

In the final analysis it is what the great spiritual teachers have been teaching throughout the centuries.

Life is about raising your soul consciousness.

Fear of death is a necessary survival instinct, stemming from the reptilian brain. Transmuting that fear into a raised consciousness of your individual true soul purpose is the real challenge during what is basically a short lifespan.

Reino Gevers – Mentor for Leaders and Achievers – Your Health Matters

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