We are part of a matrix of relationships. Who we are is determined from early childhood by our associations with the people closest to us.
“Tell me who your friends are and I’ll tell you who you are.” The saying was first coined by the American coach, speaker, and author Jim Rohn.
We share the same dress code, values, and mannerisms
Close friends and marriage partners are known to share each other’s views and values, dress code, and even mannerisms.
The energy frequency on which we are moving determines who we make friends with and want to spend time with.
Everything is relationship. When we are born the closest relationship is with the mother. It evolves from there to the forming of identity and self in puberty, when part of the process is rejecting everything the parental generation stands for.
Relationships find themselves on many different levels of interaction. Family members and working colleagues are not a choice. But in most other cases we have the freedom to choose who we want to spend most of our time with. The image of self is colored by external influences and what society seemingly expects from us. Few people know who they really are and what their innermost needs are.
We are part of a web of different relationships
Who are you in the gigantic web of living beings on earth? What is your relationship to your physical self and the external world around you? How we treat the earth is very much a reflection on how we treat ourselves.
A loving and caring identity to self, freed from the debris of the past, reflects on nearly all our relationships, whether to a beloved one or to friends and family.
Animals are naturally bound to the universal matrix with a sixth sense, reacting extremely sensitively to changes in the environment. Historians recorded that animals including rats, snakes, and weasels deserted the Greek city of Helice in 373 B.C. days before an earthquake devastated the area (National Geographic, Nov. 11, 2003).
Eyewitness accounts of the 2004 tsunami in Southeast Asia reported elephants moving to higher ground, dogs refusing to leave their shelters and flamingoes abandoning low-lying breeding grounds.
Dogs can pick up olfactory cues from humans (New Scientist, Oct. 19, 2007), even smelling emotions such as fear and aggression. Dog owners have always known this and science is increasingly proving them right.
The relationship to Self and God
A pilgrimage walk is very much a discovery of relationship to self, to God or the universal intelligence. Some pilgrims describe it like a walk home as awareness grows that we are not alone and that we can go into trust.
German philosopher Martin Buber in his book Ich und Du (translated as I and Thou) finds that human life essentially finds meaning and purpose in relationships.
In this view all our relationships ultimately bring us into relationship with God or our Creator.
Reino Gevers – Author, Mentor, and Consultant
(This is an extract of my next book “Deep Walking for Body Mind and Soul” scheduled for publication later this year)